Taking a vacation doesn't magically fix a low libido, especially if you're putting pressure on yourself to instantly feel sexy! Instead of forcing it, focus on what makes *you* feel good in your own skin and communicate with your partner beforehand to set realistic, shared expectations. Make sure to leave plenty of unstructured time in your itinerary for things like naps, slow mornings, and physical touch without an end goal. Ultimately, giving yourself a low-pressure, restful environment is the absolute best way to invite your desire out to play.
Travel might set your sights on new horizons, but it doesn’t automatically rekindle your desire. A lot of people go on trips, hoping that this will finally be the time they feel sexy and confident and exuberantly in the mood again. But libido does not respond well to pressure; it grows in spaces of safety, rest, anticipation and freedom.
If you all have felt down lately, reassure yourself that you are not broken and you are not alone. You don’t force libido, you invite it back into your life.
If what your vacation starts off with is the thought, “I need to want sex more,” that may actually feel like pressure to your body, not an invitation into pleasure. Instead, consider reframing your inquiry:
Before you head into your world travels, remember the version of yourself that is playful, confident and excited about life. This may manifest as:
Your libido may stir more easily in particular scenarios, like:
Travel might set your sights on new horizons, but it doesn’t automatically rekindle your desire. A lot of people go on trips, hoping that this will finally be the time they feel sexy and confident and exuberantly in the mood again. But libido does not respond well to pressure; it grows in spaces of safety, rest, anticipation and freedom.
If you all have felt down lately, reassure yourself that you are not broken and you are not alone. You don’t force libido, you invite it back into your life.
If what your vacation starts off with is the thought, “I need to want sex more,” that may actually feel like pressure to your body, not an invitation into pleasure. Instead, consider reframing your inquiry:
Before you head into your world travels, remember the version of yourself that is playful, confident and excited about life. This may manifest as:
Your libido may stir more easily in particular scenarios, like:
Sexual health and performance specialist focusing on the intersection of physiological vitality and lived experience. Tracy Daly provides a knowledgeable, shame-free space for the LGBTQIA+ community and those in CNM/ENM relationship structures, advocating for sexual agency through behavior change and radical inclusivity.