For a lot of men, “I feel fine” has become a sexual health strategy. No burning, no discharge, no weird bumps? Then everything must be okay…right?
Not quite.
When it comes to sexually transmitted infections (STIs), especially for men who are sexually active with multiple partners or in non‑monogamous relationships, “no symptoms” does not mean “no infection.” Many of the most common STIs in men are frequently asymptomatic — you can have them, pass them on, and never know until there’s a complication or a partner tests positive.
Regular STI testing isn’t an optional extra. It’s a core part of men’s sexual health.
The “No Symptoms” Myth
Men often rely on “how I feel” instead of getting tested because:
But the science is clear: many STIs in men cause no symptoms at all, especially in the early stages.
Asymptomatic STIs in Men: What the Evidence Shows
Chlamydia
Chlamydia is one of the most common STIs worldwide. In men, it often infects the urethra, rectum, or throat.
Gonorrhea
Gonorrhea can infect the urethra, rectum, and throat.
Syphilis
Syphilis is often called “the great imitator” because its symptoms can be mild, mistaken for something else, or go unnoticed.
HIV
Modern HIV treatment means people can live long, healthy lives — especially when diagnosed early. But early HIV infection often has no symptoms or only mild, flu‑like signs that are easy to dismiss.
Herpes (HSV‑2)
Genital herpes (usually HSV‑2) is extremely common.
Even without visible sores, herpes can still be transmitted through asymptomatic viral shedding.
Another common belief is: “I don’t need testing because I only sleep with people I trust.” Trust is important in relationships — but it doesn’t replace lab work.
Regular testing is about caring for yourself and the people you’re intimate with — not about accusing anyone of lying.
There is no one‑size‑fits‑all schedule, but public health guidelines offer clear direction.Heterosexual men
For sexually active men with new or multiple partners, many clinicians recommend:
At least annual testing for:
More frequent testing (every 3–6 months) may be recommended if you:
- Have multiple partners
- Have anonymous partners
- Rarely use condoms
- Have a history of STIs
Men who have sex with men (MSM)
For MSM, the CDC recommends at least annual testing for:
Testing every 3–6 months is recommended if you have multiple partners, use PrEP, or DoxPrEP or have higher‑risk exposures.
What a typical panel might include
Depending on your history and local protocols, a clinician may recommend:
The key is to be honest about the kinds of sex you’re having (oral, anal, vaginal) so you’re tested in all the right places.
1. Protecting your long‑term health. Untreated STIs can lead to:
Early detection usually means easier treatment and fewer complications.
2. Protecting your partnersRegular testing is one of the most concrete ways to show care and respect for your partners.
3. Reducing stigma and shameWhen testing becomes routine — like dental cleanings or annual physicals — it stops being a moral judgment and becomes basic maintenance.Normalizing testing helps:
For many men, the hardest part isn’t the test — it’s the conversation.Some ways to bring it up:- “I get tested regularly because I’m active. When were you last tested and what did they check for?” - “Before we stop using condoms / before we play, I’d like us both to be up‑to‑date on our STI tests.” - “I use an app to track my STI results so I don’t forget dates or details — want to compare?” Framing testing as mutual care (“I do this for me and for you”) makes the conversation feel collaborative instead of confrontational.
One barrier for many men — especially in swinger, ENM, kink, or queer communities — is privacy.Not everyone wants:- Their sexual health history sitting in a visible clinic portal, or - Screenshots of lab results floating around in chats or DMs. Using a secure, encrypted app like Moanr to store and share your STI test results can:- Help you remember when you last tested and what was included - Make it easy to show proof to partners without oversharing other personal details - Let you revoke access if a relationship changes Digital tools can turn testing from a one‑off, awkward event into part of your ongoing sexual health routine.
Men’s sexual health is about more than erections, performance, or the absence of pain.It’s about:- Knowing your status - Testing regularly, not just when something feels “off” - Protecting your long‑term health and fertility - Caring for the people you’re intimate with - Building a culture where sexual health is normal, not shameful.
If you’re sexually active — especially with multiple partners or in non‑monogamous networks — relying on “I feel fine” is like driving without a dashboard. You might be okay…or you might be missing a warning light.
Regular STI testing puts real data behind your confidence.
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Public Health Agency of Canada. (2018). Canadian guideline on sexually transmitted infections. https://www.canada.ca/en/public-health/services/infectious-diseases/sexual-health-sexually-transmitted-infections/canadian-guidelines.html
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Sexual health and performance specialist focusing on the intersection of physiological vitality and lived experience. Tracy Daly provides a knowledgeable, shame-free space for the LGBTQIA+ community and those in CNM/ENM relationship structures, advocating for sexual agency through behavior change and radical inclusivity.